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You are enough, you always were enough, and you always will be enough
By Rachel Burchfield
Sorority recruitment is exciting. It is miserable. It is hot. It is invigorating. It is empowering. It is aching feet. It is oversharing. It is answering the same question 25 different ways. It is my cheeks hurt too much from smiling. It is wonderful. It is awful. It is an emotional roller coaster. It is over-perfumed. It is a fashion show. It is meaningful. It is a beginning. It is an ending. It is complex. It is confusing. It is a lot.
But let me tell you one thing sorority recruitment most certainly is not: A definer of your worth.
Sweet girl, listen. And listen closely. Some of you are going to have the sorority recruitment you’ve dreamed about since you were five. Some of you are not. (Heck, some of you just decided 10 minutes ago to participate. You weren’t thinking about this even a month ago.) Regardless. Regardless! You are enough. Just as you are.
Your sorority letters – or, in some cases, lack thereof – do not define you. Only you can define you. Your sorority letters do not provide your worth, your inherent value, your meaning, your purpose. Sorority life is everything you think it is and more, but if you’re coming to sorority recruitment to get validated, you’ve come to the wrong place. You must find that self-worth within yourself. No letters – even if they are “the best” letters – will ever be able to give you true inner confidence, value, and worth. You alone are the keeper of those keys.
You are already a complete person right now, unaffiliated with any sorority. You don’t need a sorority to complete you. You are complete. You are beautiful, intelligent, compassionate, hilarious, irreverent, talented, athletic (well, unless you’re me – then you’re definitely not that), witty, and everything good in this world today, and the opening of an envelope on Bid Day will not raise or lower your stock in life. Your value does not increase or decrease based on a Bid Day jersey.
So many times we as women think “oh, well if only I can a.) date the right man, b.) pledge the right sorority, c.) fit into the right dress size, d.) get the right job, then I will be enough.” NOPE. You already are enough right this very moment, just as you are. You do not need all of the above add-ons. They are the sprinkles on top of an already delicious, fabulous, incredible cake.
As you enter sorority recruitment, be yourself. Your imperfect, raw, real, irreverent, true self. Let the right women fall in love with the real you. Just like when you go on dates, you should always be yourself (there are so many parallels between sorority recruitment and dating that I could write a book on it) – what’s the point if the man you’re dating falls in love with someone that isn’t really you? How far is that relationship really going to go? Same with sorority recruitment. If you’re not who you really are, how will you find your tribe? Show them the unashamed you that so many people already love and adore.
You are enough. You are worthy. And sorority life – let me tell you, it’s wonderful. I wouldn’t change one thing about my decision to join my chapter and become a Panhellenic woman. But that said, if all I had to hang my worthiness on were my letters, I’d be in a mess of trouble. I – and you – have so much more than Greek letters to define us.
I hope you have the most magical sorority recruitment. I wish you happiness and peace about your decisions and calm and unfettered joy and everything good. But the truth is, I don’t know one person who has ever had a sorority recruitment turn out 100 percent the way they thought it would. Not one.
But the good news is – it always turns out how it is supposed to, and it always turns out better than you thought it could be.
Walk in there a confident, complete woman, be yourself, wear your letters with pride, but realize that with or without letters, you’re everything and more, and raise your head and walk like the queen that you most certainly are into each sorority recruitment event and into each and every room you enter from now until the end of time.
You are enough, you always were enough, and you always will be enough.
Enjoy this moment. (Even the aching feet.) And in that moment of sorority recruitment when you feel like quitting – let’s be honest, we all have that moment – remember what I said, adjust your invisible crown, and continue to shine.
I wish I could have attended Sorority 101 before I went through recruitment. I was the first person in my family and group of high school friends to go to join a sorority. Even though I had other friends who were Greek, there were many questions I didn’t even know I should ask.
Whether you are the first in your family to be Greek, the first at a particular university, or following in the footsteps of several Greek women in your family/friends, you can learn a lot at Sorority 101. Here are five main reasons to attend Sorority 101.
- Learn about the current recruitment process from sorority alumnae.
Sorority recruitment has changed a lot over the years, so it may be different than when your mom or even older sister or cousin joined their sorority. Alumnae who are still involved with Greek life prepares the content for Sorority 101. We will review the recruitment process from the first day to bid day. Information presented is general; however, differences among universities will be shared as well. You will also have the opportunity to ask questions during the session or submit questions anonymously prior to the talk.
- Talk to collegiate members from YOUR university
Recruitment varies from university to university. There will be collegiate Panhellenic women from several universities in attendance (stayed tuned to our social media for updates on which schools!). This will give you the opportunity to ask questions and meet some of the women who will be managing recruitment at your university. It will be nice to see a familiar face when it’s time for Recruitment!
- Practice conversation
Recruitment is all about talking to and sharing information about yourself with new people. Take advantage of the opportunity at Sorority 101 to introduce yourself to the collegiate Panhellenic women as well as the other attendees to practice your conversation skills.
- Get outfit inspiration
What should you wear each day?! Some local stores will bring samples of outfits and accessories that would be excellent for wearing for Recruitment. They can help you to find ideas for outfits that would be appropriate for each round of Recruitment while staying true to your own style. Some vendors may bring coupons as well.
- Make friends and meet potential sisters
The other attendees are in the same position as you – heading to college in the fall and interested in joining a sorority. You immediately have two things in common. Meet new people. Make new friends. Find other women who are going to the same university, and start making friends with women who could possibly become sorority sisters in the future!
Join us at Sorority 101 on March 1st from 3:00pm-5:00pm at Samford University!
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Register for Sorority 101 at https://birminghampanhellenic.com/sorority-101-event/
By Melinda Henry Oates
Service is very important to members of Birmingham Alumnae Panhellenic. As sorority women, we are used to participating in philanthropic service. During our collegiate days each of us were encouraged and expected to give back to the progress of mankind.
Each year as an organization we participate in the Salvation Army Angel Tree program. We encourage each of our alumnae chapters and associations to participate by donating a tax-deductible donation to the Birmingham Alumnae Panhellenic. We then go out and purchase items for little girls, as our hope is that one day the gifts that she received will make a difference in her life and she will grow up and become a Greek woman who has a heart for philanthropy herself.
When you give back, you are helping people with their future development, and you yourself will grow as a person when you are emotionally aware of all walks of life. You then see the importance of all philanthropic endeavors. It has also been proven that people who volunteer are healthier physically and mentally. There is no greater feeling of purpose then giving back and volunteering your time to contribute to make a better community and overall a better world in which to live in.
If we did not have volunteers, think of the things that would not ever get done in the middle of some of our worst disasters in this world. As we reflect and remember the height of volunteerism that we saw and experienced 18 years ago on September 11, 2001 when, for days and months after that day, you saw the impact that giving back can have. After a year or so, when things settled back to some sense of normalcy, we saw the surge of volunteerism begin to fade. We do not need to wait until there are tragedies in our own lives or in our community or even country to volunteer – it should be something that should be part of our moral compass and not be forced upon us by the circumstances around us.
If you are looking for ways to volunteer, one suggestion is to support what you are passionate about. Everyone has things that they are passionate about, and if you are passionate then you will enjoy your experience and you will stick with your volunteerism more than if you just volunteer to be doing it just to be doing it. Make sure that it fits your interests and abilities. There is no set amount of time each month that you are required to volunteer – just making that first contact and then making a hour a month is a great start. You will start making a difference in the lives of others and you will be happier and healthier for it.
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